When we are able to let go, we can approach our situation with a steady view.  This is particularly important when we start our new life after divorce.  Most Rituals are structured with a beginning, middle and an end. (If you are new to rituals, set a timer for five minutes.)

Here are the steps for one ritual for letting go:

Open this ritual by doing something to delineate it from the rest of your life; for example, lighting a candle, sitting crossed legged, ringing a bell or lighting incense.

Then set an intention. It can sound like, “May I release the anger I feel about this (person, place, situation), and may I—in its place—feel love.”  Repeat this as many times as feels right.

Next,  sit still in silence and observe your breath. This allows letting go to occur. Keep your eyes open and look at the candle or floor, or close them and focus solely on your breath.

To close, dedicate the outcome of your practice to benefit all beings.  To end, choose a phrase like: “May all beings find peace.” Do a final act of blowing out the candle, ringing the bell, smudging the incense or bowing to signify the finality of this release.

When we hold onto something that no longer serves us, we suffer—and we miss out on new opportunities offered in this moment. By releasing it, we free ourselves up for liberation. Freedom is found in the skill to see things for how they are now, not how they were.