What is mediation?
A technique that saves the relationship while ending the marriage by facilitating a mutually beneficial dialog between 2 married individuals. 95% of mediations end in a mutual agreement.
Who is mediation for?
Mediation is for couples in conflict who are…
(this includes LGBT community couples)
- I sure hope we can come to an agreement.
- Is divorce our only option?
- Is there a more affordable route to divorce other than litigation?
- Maybe my attorney was right to suggest mediation?
- Why can’t we seem to agree ourselves? We need someone to do it for/with us.
Have the challenges of
- Paying the high cost of legal fees.
- Allocating assets in the most equitable way.
- Determining a workable custody schedule.
- Developing communication guidelines for the future.
- Needing/Wanting to get a divorce done quicker than through the courts.
- Supporting two homes on the current budget(s).
- An alternative route to divorce.
- Both parties to feel that all issues have been fairly resolved.
- Both parties to be able to start their new lives.
- To lessen the negative effects of divorce on children.
- To develop a co-parenting plan for now and the future.
- To develop a treatment plan for any child with illness, disease, or developmental delay.
If you would like to…
- Lessen the adversarial nature of divorce
- Not be consumed by anger
- Minimize harm to the children
- Have a more cost effective divorce solution
- Get co-parenting tips
- Learn how to develop respect for each other’s future relationships or new family
- Create a workable and mutually respected holiday calendar
- Develop a plan to maintain relationships with extended family for both parties and the children
- Develop a plan for both parties being able to financially support themselves and any children involved
- Be connected to resources and experts
…then mediation is for YOU!
The Mediation Process
Mediation brings together the legal, emotional, developmental, and financial ramifications of divorce by creating a non-judgmental space for married individuals to express their needs, wants, and fears.
I use my expertise as a family psychologist and former family lawyer to help you create non-traditional solutions individualized for each individual, couple, and family. This conflict resolution process will support both traditional and non-traditional couples in saving money and lessening the negative effects of divorce on the family as whole. Engaging with a mediator can take place in the context of working on a marriage or as part of a separation. Many couples work with a mediator to create the structure by which to make a marriage work. Other couples who have decided that divorce is their only option may begin mediation before or after filing for divorce. Family law is just one element of mediation. Unlike divorce litigation, family mediation provides a method for working through personal, emotional, and spiritual issues, as well as the legal and fiancial issues addressed by both mediation and litigation. This approach is informed by both therapeutic and financial competencies. A part of divorce mediation is to help couples and individuals reach their financial goals by thoughtfully addressing financial challenges, while at the same time, attending to the emotional, psychological, behavioral, and relational hurdles that are intertwined.
During the mediation process, we will:
- gather essential assets and liability data and information
- use that information to develop and implement an individualized mediation meeting plan
- document areas of agreement and negotiate any remaining issues
- complete legal agreement paperwork so you can enjoy your new life
At our first session we will:
- identify the issues your partnership will face in mediation
- prioritize those issues
At the end of your mediation program, you will receive the following:
- a mediation agreement
- a settlement agreement
- a parenting agreement.
Your mediation program will consist of 2 hour mediation sessions. Because each divorce situation is different, I create a customized session agenda for each couple.
*an estimate of sessions needed will be determined at your Get A Handle On It! Session.