Why Personalized Shared Custody Plans & Parenting Coordination Services
are Essential to a Holistic Approach to Parenting Coordination
Interpersonal conflict arising during marriage and separation can contribute to an inability to establish a working co-parenting relationship. Negative ways of interacting with each other in the past become habits that continue to influence how we see things, what we believe, and the ways in which we act, even after separation. The legal adversarial system of the court further entrenches these interpersonal habits and contributes to the development of additional communication strategies designed to help the individual adapt to the legal-adversarial process. The strategies we use to get through the adversarial process are actually adaptive but, sadly, contribute to dysfunction and difficulties in co-parenting. None of these challenges are helped by the fact that resources, both emotional and financial, are often eaten up by the adversarial process.
An effective parenting plan can serve to create new patterns of interaction between parents if it has, but is not limited to, these four components:
- Highly Specific Details that Relate to the Particular Family’s Needs and Schedules (Including how to handle extra-curricular activities).
- Communication Channels that Parents Will Use to Communicate with Each Other
- Parent Meetings to Address Issues that Arise as Parents Implement the Parenting Plan (These meetings can be held by Skype or Facetime if that is preferable.)
- The way engagement with friends and extended family will be managed.
My holistic approach to parenting coordination includes taking the time necessary to gain an awareness of family diversity and tailor the services I provide to each family’s unique cultural, racial, ethnic, ability, gender, religious, and income circumstances.