"Our Purpose is to love and be loved. It is not to prove to others that we are lovable." Megan Watterson

What conditions do others require you meet in order to feel loved?

Did these conditions become the conditions you require you meet in order to feel loved?

 

Do you need to look a certain way to be loved by others? To be loved by yourself?

Must you deny the number of years you have lived in this world?

Must you prove yourself young and innocent?

Is it more attractive to be naive than wise?

Do you need to feel certain emotions to be loved? Will they wrap their arms around the happy girl and ignore the resentful one?

What are the ugly moods? Can feeling them keep you from being loved? By yourself? By others?

What do your children, your job, your neighborhood tell others about how much you deserve love?

Must the landscape of your life be a garden, a field, an industry? 

 

Does your level of leisure tell others the love about which you are deserving? 

Can you love yours

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We all face obstacles to living in resonance with our highest self, spirit, or most authentic self.

Obstacles Along The Path

Common obstacles along the path toward living as your most authentic self include:

• Self-Criticism,
• Acting Out of Habit,
• Fear of Being Labeled Selfish, and
• A Need for External Validation.

First, we need to notice the obstacles.

Self-inquiry

The capacity to expose unexamined beliefs, thoughts, and stories that create unnecessary suffering. Self-inquiry reveals the eternal truth of who you are, free and at peace.

Some of the obstacles I have encountered along the way have had to do with my wanting. My ambition to do everything and do it the best I can and to compare that best to other people's best can be an enormous boulder.  For many years that boulder tipped the balance of my existence more toward human doing than human being.

Canadian physician and trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté said on a recent podcast that the feeling of being

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