Trusting ourselves to have healthy relationships in the future is hard after divorce. Understanding why things happened a certain way is not always possible.
If we do not know why something happened how can we know it won’t happen again?
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Penelope (a client, name changed) wondered, “How did I fall for that guy? Why did I trust him?” “My friends didn’t trust him, but they never told me! When I asked them why, they just said you were so happy, and we didn’t want to ruin it for you!”Â
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During our session, we talked about how her decisions were made from a place of kindness, generosity, and goodness inside of her. This did not melt away Penelope’s concern.
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“If that is so, how do I stop from ending up like this again?” “How can I ever trust myself?”
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We talked about how mindfulness, in a compassionate way, of what we are thinking and feeling leads to clarity of mind and with clarity of mind comes choice.
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