The Nine Rules of Shame
Shame typically involves being observed disapprovingly by others. Shame can hold us hostage to the unrealistic and hurtful standards of others.
Shame in a family, organization, or group involves the leaders openly criticizing another for a failure to live up to accepted norms or values. Shame tells the one shamed that they are deserving of criticism and disapproval.
Shame is painful and terribly uncomfortable. It is a loud booming voice shouting to the world that the shamed person is inadequate, deficient, embarrassing, or unworthy. The powerful feeling of shame involves being drastically diminished, made smaller, and lacking in dignity. Shame hits square in the face and unexpectedly.
While guilt focuses on the performance of an action, shame focuses on the self as a whole.
Guilt refers to what I have done while shame refers to who I am.
A shame based person, family, organization, or relationship is necessarily rigid in order to self-perpetuate it's own rules.
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