This may not be the kind of advice you want to hear, but I promise you, you and your children will recover from the trauma of divorce sooner if you can:

1. Validate their feelings.

2. Children perceive time differently from adults. Help Your Child Perceive the amount of time involved in terms that they can understand.

3. Schedule something positive to take place together after the visit.

4. Acknowledge the effort your child is making to do what he must do in this situation.

5. Make sure they know that they are not hurting you or betraying you by going to the visit and that you will be just fine.

6. Don't pry for information from them afterward.

7. When they do want to talk, be ready for them, listen attentively, and respond.

Helping Your Child Adjust to Divorce

There's no doubt that a divorce can be a strain on every member of the family. Sometimes it's tough to look on the bright side and see that it can be the best choice for future happiness.

Children are usually hit the hardest by the divorce. If they're young, they may not be able to fully grasp the subject. Also, no matter what age they are, their first instinct is generally to blame themselves. The helpful news is that you can do a lot to get your child through this tough time.

Consider some of the following tips for helping your child cope with divorce:

1. Keep an open dialogue. Talk to your children about the divorce. Even if you have some pent up feelings about your ex, this doesn't mean that you should shy away from the topic with your child. The worst thing you can do is act like nothing is going on.

• Talk to your child about their fears.
• Allow them to cry if they need to do so.
• Make sure that you always have an ope
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As parents, there are a few things that we all want our children to feel…

...able ✔️

...worthy ✔️

...accepted ✔️

But for parents considering, going through, or who have already divorced, sometimes it feels that your family won’t be able to emerge happy and whole.  

As a psychologist and former family law attorney, I have spent two decades working with individuals and families to help them emerge from divorce with happiness and confidence.

And now I want to give away that knowledge inside this FREE guide:

📣 Promoting Positive Self-Esteem In Children 📣

Helping parents everywhere raise happy, healthy and confident children, in this guide you will discover:

✨ How self-esteem plays a role in childhood 

✨ How their self-esteem influences their choices and relationships later in life

✨ A comprehensive strategy including 8 Steps you should take to help your child develop positive self-esteem

✨ Examples of situations and dialogue drawn from real coparenting fami...

Calling all parents!

What if you had a coparenting blueprint that helped your children emerge from divorce with confidence!?

That’s exactly what Promoting Positive Self-Esteem In Children - a FREE guide - is designed to do. 🙌

As a psychologist and former family law attorney, I have spent two decades working with individuals and families to help them emerge from divorce happy and whole.

And I am also all too familiar with the effects that negative self-esteem can have on a developing child. 

In this FREE guide, it is my mission to help parents everywhere raise happy, healthy and confident children with loving guidance. ❤️

For parents considering, going through, or who have already divorced, this guide can help you  discover:

✨ How self-esteem plays a role in childhood 

✨ How their self-esteem influences their choices and relationships later in life

✨ A comprehensive strategy including 8 Steps you should take to help your child develop positive self-esteem

Enlightened CoParenting™ emphasizes emotional connection with your child, regardless of whether or not they are with you or their coparent. No need to wait for your parenting time or a special occasion to show affection to your toddler. Maintaining that heart to heart connection with them, helps both of you through periods of separation from each other. 

This checklist offers a way to offer loving actions to your child each day, electronically or by phone when you are apart and physically when you are together.

I am joined by other psychologists and specifically developmental psychologists in suggesting these heart centered techniques.

1. Perform a simple, personalized ritual at the beginning and end of parenting times. For example: morning hug after waking up, daddy/mommy dance when child returns from time with other parent, or sing song you made up together at each bath time etc.

2. Engage in mindful conversation. Be curious about what your toddler is thinking and feeling.  Ask question...