My clients going through or recovering from divorce tell me they can't imagine ever trusting again.

I understand.

Betrayal is ravaging. 

Grieving precedes healing.

Still, I promise them, and I promise you, blanket mistrust may be a mistake.

Living a life without vulnerability and trust will feel protective, at first, and terribly isolating and lonely later.

Our well-being is up to us.

One day, a part of you, the part that knows that life and growth can only thrive within relationships, will tiptoe into your mind with its quiet whisper and ask you, with some trepidation, to make the choice to trust another.

You may or may not be ready.

Either way, you are ready to take the step that is preliminary to trusting others.  That step is to rekindle trust in yourself.

You may be thinking,

"How can I do that after the absolute miserable mess I made getting into and struggling to get out of my past relationship?" 

Dear soul, maybe you made a mistake, as all humans do.

Or maybe t...

"One of the hardest parts of healing from past relationships, is learning to trust ourselves again."

When we subconsciously play out patterns in adult relationships that we learned from growing up in our families of origin, subconsciously hoping to heal the pain from those early days, and these adult relationships have led to heartbreak and pain - it makes us afraid to trust ourselves again.

Do you remember the last time you felt certain that you were doing what was best for you?

After a painful break-up we have an enormous opportunity to dive deeper into connection with our authentic selves  and regain trust in ourselves. 

How can we learn to trust ourselves again?

Through forgiveness and self-compassion.

Remember that every path you’ve walked, every choice you’ve made has provided you lessons that you can now use here, now, today!

The amazing fact that you notice your doubt in yourself means you are in the process of waking up to the patterns that are no longer adaptive and no lo...