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Don't Compromse Who You Are

How have you been feeling?
 
If a relationship is leaving you feeling stressed or unsure, it may be because you feel you have to compromise on your values or give up some of what you feel makes you who you are at your core.
 
If you grew up in a family where your needs were seen as unimportant and you were asked to suppress those needs in order to please others, you may relate to what it is like to feel you need to be a people pleaser.
 
Of course, all relationships require some compromise but it is important to look inward to see if you are compromising on a value that is too important for you to release.
 
For example, if you value autonomy but have been giving up that autonomy in order to help another feel they are more in control you may be compromising on this important value of autonomy.  If you are making yourself uncomfortable so that other can feel more comfortable, that may be the cause of stress or uncertainty.
 
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Approval Not-Seeking

Approval seeking and people pleasing are wicked habits.

Inherently you have strength, intelligence, potential and talent. Add to that all that you have cultivated since your earliest days.


Life can be traumatic and wounding and may interfere with our natural ability to feel confident and capable. Sometimes it can feel like we have lost access to our own wisdom.  It can feel like a siren overpowering and drowning out  the quiet voice inside telling us the things we know to be true.

Underneath figuring out how to fit all of life into our new framework of days, our wisdom remains; no one can take it away.

Self-care is much more than a facial or a pedicure (though those are two really lovely examples!).  Self-care at it's truest is saying no to something requested or demanded or expected by others in order to say yes to our own emotional, physical and mental well being.

Self care sits opposite the defense mechanisms of people pleasing and approval seeking.

In self care....

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