Will you give yourself permission to  experience not just the sorrow of divorce but the opportunities for transformation?

Divorce As Catalyst For Transformation

Feeling hopeful about change, even painful change, and the opportunities it will bring, is an aspect of resilience and provides strength to move through the hard times successfully. 

There are many factors which keep us mired in the bog of what happened, in the mud of what we lost and in the fear of what is to come. If you are willing to go step-by-step, I believe you will move beyond your divorce into the life you want and deserve. Divorce is heartbreaking and challenging but it should not be punishing, or a good life ending experience.

The Life Quake of Divorce

Divorce uniquely positions you square in the flow of a changing life. The waves are sometimes tumultuous. 

Some of my clients become skeptical when I share that they can look at their life right now as an opportunity. They say that this is the worst...

I want to see you well rested. I ask my clients, how are you sleeping? It's more than knowing about if they got eight hours of sleep. Their answer tells me they're making the time to get rest  that they're feeling less fearful, less confused.

It's a sign, they're gaining inner strength and clarity, that they have dreams that have become rooted in a bright future.

 Another question that is much more than a factual question that I ask my clients is what's your story. I believe in the power of narrative and that the stories we're telling ourselves have an extensive impact on our perspective and our lives.

It's so important that our stories reflect our values and our truth.  Get used to me asking, what's your story? Each module in break up to brilliance is meant as an access, not just to healing, but to growth. Break up to brilliance is more than healing wounds from the past, it's more than returning to a place.

 It isn't just about coping because coping is about...

There are 6 things you must lay down the law on with family & friends offering to star in the Drama of Your Divorce

Here, I will respectfully call family and friends by the loving acronym "F&F."

Divorce is a difficult process for everyone involved, including F&F.

However, you can not imagine how swiftly they can:

Make divorce and divorce recovery more complicated,

Make  the process even more stressful and difficult than it already is (It is possible!) and

Increase the level of conflict.

If you’re dealing with divorce meddling F&F, insist that they refrain from these activities in order to avoid the disaster.

1. Choosing

A common method of F&F meddling in a divorce is to choose sides. School them on the inevitable consequences.

F&F who choose sides in a divorce actually:

Make the process more difficult;

Prevent or delay conflict resolution, and

Keep the couple from reaching a settlement.

Insist that you will not condone the outward...