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How Family and Friends Stoke the Flames of Conflict for Coparents after Divorce

New Research finds that when parents perceive that friends & family blame their ex-partner for transgressions and speak negatively about the ex-partner, it is harder for those parents to forgive the other parent.
 
If you are holding your breath waiting for the conflict to finally end, consider the holding on that is stoked by friends and family.
 
Blaming on their part may be one factor that contributes to maintaining & escalating of conflicts between divorced parents.
 
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High conflict parents, often struggling themselves to tilt the ship right, underestimate the effects of their conflicts on children and children's self-esteem. Putting to use the steps in the workbook does not require you engage in any way with your ex. They are parenting prompts that can be utilized with children of...
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What subconscious commitments sabotage your coparenting plan?

Sometimes a story comes along that resonates on so many levels, I've got to share it.

"She": senior vice-president for an enterprise software company, who went from virtual assistant to her current position in 3 years.

"He": thriving entrepreneur who built his pool construction firm to over 7 figures.

They have 2 sons.  The oldest son is the attacking midfielder for the state’s most prestigious high school soccer club (“Soccer Son”). The youngest is a scholar who tackles math with the vigor of Christopher Langan ("Scholar Son").

(I had no idea who Christopher Langan was until I overheard 2 men chuckling in line at Starbucks and, in need of a little humor, listened in. Why were they chuckling? I didn't get it.  I did learn that Langan’s IQ is, according to these 2 chucklers, estimated to be between 195 and 210, and he has been deemed the greatest math genius alive….of course I wouldn’t know or get their humor; 1 thing I...
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Togetherness’ is both an objective experience and a psychological one.

"It’s important to remember that ‘togetherness’ is both an objective experience and a psychological one.” Gregory Walton

Making sense of our feelings when we are experiencing loneliness is not easy. Mindfulness about what our feelings of loneliness are rooted in shifts the way we make sense of things. We realize that opening our minds to a new perspective on what we are experiencing can qualitatively change our sense of self, others, and the social situations in which we find ourselves.

Physically together and psychologically together are distinct things. You can be with others physically yet feel lonely. You can also be physically separated yet still feel connected. Even if you are each alone, you both know that you are in each other’s thoughts. That sense of connection is something we have the ability to cultivate intentionally. 

If you are feeling lonely, you certainly are not alone in that experience. With the pandemic raging across our...

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